Game ball! Part two!

This is just me bragging on my oldest son. It was a perfect night for baseball, and that’s exactly what Coop had. Well close enough to perfect.

First at bat was a pop up to first. The problem was the teams best player was playing first. However he did get a run in on the play.

Second at bat was a solid hit over the head of the second baseman. Coop would end up scoring when the following hitter singled to 3rd.

Third at bat was stressful. Coop came up with the bases loaded. Swung and missed at the first two pitches. Then he took a pitch. The fourth pitch of at bat was a line drive up the middle. This being a leauge of 8-10 year old the ball shot past everyone’s gloves. Cooper would end up with an inside the park grand slam! I was never more proud, but it’s hard to turn your emotions lose when your the coach out there running the pitching machine.

Coops final line was 2-3 with a sac fly and 6 RBI he scored 2 runs.

We ended up winning the game 7-4. Everyone in the dugout knew that Coop was getting the game ball. I really hope Coop remembers this day, because I know I will!

So how has it been since adopting Cash?

Adoption Update

It has been 5 months since Cash was born. It’s the most exhausting yet exhilarating experience having a newborn. The first week of his life was not easy. But with wonderful doctors and nursing staff and his mama, he got through it. He is seriously the strongest little guy! We got to bring him home a week and a day later. It was difficult being in the hospital by myself with Cash for that week while my husband was home tending to the house, taking care of our oldest son, Cooper and working. I didn’t have any true personal support. Phone calls and texts were great but some days I just needed more. Ultimately I wouldn’t change that week because I feel the bond that Cash and I created was super special. Finally the day came to go home and we were all beyond excited to start this new journey as a family of 4!

I feel like we adjusted really well minus the whole lack of sleep thing. With adoption, you suddenly have to adjust to very little sleep and all things that come with newborn territory. Thankfully, Cash was (and still is) a super easy, chill baby! SO happy! We’ve been told by so many people that he is seriously the happiest baby all the time! Spoiler alert: it is true!

One thing that has been an absolute joy to watch is Cooper being a big brother! He has waited so long to be a brother and he has taken that role on like none other. Cash is one lucky dude to have Cooper in his corner! I cannot wait to see the special bond continue to grow between them. No one can get Cash to smile quite like Cooper can. You mention “bubby” to Cash and he just lights up!

About Cash. He has the biggest, bluest eyes that draw you in. Daddy sometimes calls him “ole blue.” His big, gummy smile is the best. He will literally smile at anyone who takes a second to talk to him. He just rolled over at about 4.5 months and that’s all he wants to do! He had his first taste of cereal and apples around 4 months. We are officially at the teething stage; not fun. We cannot keep his hands out of his mouth and he’s becoming grabby as in mommy’s hair! Cash recently had his first water park experience and he did well. He people watched and napped with mommy most of the time though.

Birth mom visits. Our birth mom aka “belly mom” as she will be known as has had 2 visits since the day we left the hospital. Once in December and then we just met again in March. Each time it has been a pleasant experience. She has held him each time and you can see the love she has for him! As precious as those moments are, it’s heartbreaking too. She does have 3 other children and they all have met Cash. It is my sincere hope that one day they can come together and get to know each other.

Until next time…

Best 90 day run in the history of the world?

Imagine if you will your favorite sports team wins the championship in their leauge. You might think “This is the best thing ever”. But what if it could get better?

What if the baby boy you have been patiently waiting to bring home is born and is absolutely amazing and healthy!

Wait there’s more? Yea what if you find the perfect house for you and your family and the people that are selling are amazing and work with you the whole way! Surely that’s it…wrong!

Then what if you sell your old house for more then you thought you would get out of it by accepting a cash offer without ever showing it! Yea unreal right!

I say all of that to say this. We are incredibly blessed and we know it! Follow the lord and you will be lead to greatness if that is his will.

1 Samuel 26:23

Time to make a move.

11 years ago we bought our first home. It was a new home. We have done improvements, upgrades and we love it. It’s nearly paid for also, but……

We have 1/3 of an acre in a small sub division. We have a fence, and a shed. The biggest part of our yard is on a slope. It’s all been basically maintenance free. With all that said, we have 2 boys!

2 boys that need to shoot guns, play in the mud, ride 4 wheelers, learn manual labor, run, play hide and seek, laser tag, baseball, football, slingshots, break stuff and most importantly get away from screens. I’m sure there are a million other things as well.

With all that said it’s time to move to a place with some land, trees and out buildings. Maybe get some farm animals. Now it’s time to sell the home we have known for 11 years. The only home our boys have ever known.

Our future is in a old farm house on 2 acres, and our future is very bright!!!

So it’s 2019 and what have you done?

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

What have you done? If your like most you have probably checked Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and snap chat several times.

I know for myself this is a personal battle that happens daily. What did so and so do? Wow, they have a perfect life. They got the new phone, I need to keep up. I wish I could do that for my family. Does any of that sound familiar?

It sure does for me. That’s why I’m taking a step back, way back from all the social media. I need to focus 100% on my family. I feel like social media is my kryptonite and it’s time to change that.

I have deleted all social platforms from my devices. Twitter is the only exception. Since I refuse to watch the news or read newspapers due to negativity twitter will be my only glimpse to the outside world. I know I know twitter is negative also, but it’s real easy to tap the block button!

I hope this will be a life changing decision…or maybe I will be back on the social media wagon in a month or so. Either way I’m going to enjoy it as long as it last. After all my family deserves my attention 100% and they are going to get it weather they like it or not!

Adoption journey is closed, but not over.

This past week our adoption journey officially came to a close. Closed, not the end. Legally the adoption door is closed behind us and we can go on with life and our 2 boys!

The dream started years ago, but this leg of the journey started about a year and a half ago. A good friend asked me to breakfast. He started telling me how he thought my Wife and I were amazing parents. Then he told me he would like to see us adopt. I told him that we would love to but it’s way to expensive. He offered his support.

I was blown away. Thrilled, emotional, excited and hopeful is how I felt. I went home and told my Wife. She was instantly excited, but very cautious. Then we started looking into the process. We started to see the numbers. 30 thousand, uh we can’t ask for that!

Then we found out we didn’t have to. Fundraisers, tax credits, donations OH MY!! Don’t let me fool you it’s hard work. But if you want a child you’ll do anything. That’s exactly what we did. Whatever we could we did. Take advantage of all aspects, you will be shocked at how many people want to help.

The biggest thing is tell your story. Friends, Co workers, church groups and of course social media. If it wasn’t for Facebook I wouldn’t be typing this with our baby boy in my arms. Check around there are all kind of adoption groups offering help. So if your thinking about adopting stop! Stop thinking and start doing! Your gonna be changing diapers on 4 hours of sleep before you know it!

Remember all adoption stories have ups and downs. Heart breaks and moments of pure joy. But if your heart is in the right place and your intentions are good you will end up completing your journey. In the end it will be worth it. Just remember there is no timeline or time limit on this journey. Stay positive and keep the faith.

What’s the difference, they are both boys.

“Every kid is different” at least that’s what I have always heard. So far it seems very true. Here are a few examples of differences that I have noticed with my boys.

Spit up, yea I’m going right there. With Coop we literally used a receiving blanket as a burp cloth. Feed him 4 ounces and the blanket would be saturated. Cash on the other hand rarely spits up but he burps like a drunken sailor, loud and smelly.

Hanging out in the crib. With Coop I was a totally hard a$$. First night we were home Coop was in his crib. I think that night was the most my Wife ever wanted to stab me. Cash, well he is nearly 6 weeks and haven’t spent more then 2 hours in his crib at a time. I guess we are parenting Cash differently, because we are older? Surely not because we are wiser! Oh well it’s somehow working out.

Will Cash be a lego maniac because of Coop or will he be wired different? I wouldn’t be upset if he’s obsessed with sports instead of legos. Can at least one of my boys be pro wrestling fans? Maybe that’s a bit much to ask!

I’m sure there will be a million different things that are different with these boys. But I suppose that’s half the adventure. If your reading this shoot me a comment about the biggest differences in your children. I sure would like some heads up because I clearly have no clue what I’m doing!

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Things a Newborn helps you remember.

It’s been over 7 years since we brought home our first Son. It’s amazing how time flies. It’s also amazing all the things you forget about having a newborn. Here are a few things that Cash has helped me remember.

I remember that you don’t need 6-8 hours of sleep to function like a normal human. Cash has reminded us that you can function on 3 or less for multiple days in a row.

I remember that you don’t need extra money. You think you need a savings account that continues to swell weekly. Cash has reminded us that diapers, formula and child care are expensive.

I remember when I could come home from work and relax. Everyone needs a few chill minutes after a wild day at work. Cash has reminded us that “taking it easy” is overrated. There is always something to do with a newborn. Dishes, laundry, changing diapers take away all your free time.

I remember what it’s like to stare in amazement as our older Son took his first steps, tasted a lemon for the first time or especially hit his first baseball. Cash will definitely remind us of all of these things and many many more. I’m excited to remember all of these little moments that we take for granted with our 7 year old.

I so look forward to all of our future adventures. I also look forward to teaching my boys all kinds of bad habits that drives Mom nuts! Dad life has doubled and I am super excited about it!

World Series Week

 

I’m trying to play catch up.  I really wanted to tell this story.

Ahhhh The World Series!  For anyone that knows me they know that I’m a huge Boston Red Sox fan!  Thats great and all but thats just a little part of this story.  This is a story of Jesus and prayer.

This story really starts on Sunday.  Our Pastor was up preaching and speaking on preparation.  Most people prep for the wrong thing.  We all do it, I was currently doing it. Prepping for the World Series.  Not listening to worship music at work, but instead 8 hours of baseball talk.  Not reading the Bible at home, instead several hours of Twitter and baseball blogs.  Not even really thinking about our baby boy that we would be adopting in just a few short weeks.  Baseball, that was my focus.

We were cruising along on our adoption journey the Red Sox were the best team on the planet and it was game one of the 2018 World Series!  We hadn’t heard from our Birth Mom in a few days.  My Wife was feeling concerned, but I was thinking about the batting lineup for game one.  My Wife started to reach out to the Birth Moms sister just before the game.  Then we got a message “The adoption is off”.  Thats all I read.  I started to feel sick, I wanted to cry.  I had so many questions but no one to ask.  No body would understand, nobody had an answer.  We were alone with nobody.

After reading that baseball didn’t matter, not even the world series.  We got as much info out of the sister as we could.  Didn’t help, nothing helped.  Then I had an “Ah ha” moment.  Prayer, it was default.  I did it daily, for a lot of people and for a lot of different things.  In that moment I realized I had to pray…a lot.  I needed everyone to pray.  I sent texts to family, friends and coworkers.  I asked for prayers for us, for the baby and for the Birth Mom.  Yep, especially her.

I had many people comment that they thought I was crazy.  After all she took the unborn baby away from us.  She crushed us!  But I knew that it had to be done. It didn’t make sense but I was learning a lesson from God.  Those are the most valuable lessons there are.  Pray, even when it doesn’t make sense.  Prayer is all you have and all you need.

So after a few gut wrenching days of praying daily, hourly some times every few minutes we got a call.  Can you guys come and meet Her on Sunday, the answer was obviously yes.  Thats all we could think about, neither of us could sleep after that.  What do we say to her, what do we do?  We did the thing that made the most sense, we prayed.

We met, talked and meet her needs.  Turns out there was some communicating issues on both sides.  Turned out she wanted us as bad as we wanted her.  Basically we came to an agreement that our originally agreement was still the best solution for everyone.  We were happy, she was thrilled and all was right.  We drove home and I missed most of the game.  Turns out that it would be the final game of the series.  The Red Sox won, but I felt like I was the real winner.  I learned what I already knew.  Jesus loves us and prayer works if its Gods will.  His whole plan is perfect even though there are some rain clouds, it always ends up sunny.

Admittedly I watched the last 3 innings at home alone, where this bumpy ride started.  I was into the game.  When the final pitch was thrown and the Red Sox won I lost it.  I cried uncontrollably.  Not because the Sox won but because I could feel the love of Jesus pumping thru me, and it is awesome! IMG_1803

When Chris Sales hand went up my heart boiled over with the love of God, and to me this picture represents that moment.  In the future I will be just as passionate about Red Sox baseball, but its going to have to take a back seat to the passion I feel for Jesus.

As for the adoption, everything went perfect.  On Nov 9th at just after 11 pm Cash entered this world.  Happy and healthy.  So you wanna see a picture?56411026393__4350FBE2-E724-4CB7-BB28-E4AABBEBA644

Yep, he’s pretty great!

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